It's A Guy Thing

Albert Einstein once said; “Women marry men hoping they will change. Men marry women hoping they will not. So each is inevitably disappointed.”

How often have you heard a guy say that "she's changed since the kids were born", or heard him complain that "the sex isn't the same, since we got married"? How about women who complain that their husband "still hangs out with his friends all the time", or "I always take a back seat to poker night, or a round of golf"? It seems so obvious that the two are connected, but why don't we see that? Einstein was a genius, but his statement is as plain as the nose on our face.

Women lose the desire for intimacy when an emotional connection is no longer there. That connection gets lost when a man makes choices ignoring his wife's feelings. Intimacy is lost, and the man is left wondering "what happened to the girl I married?" The circle continues to go round and round.

The point of all of this? Wake up people!!! The answer to your issues lies right there in front of you!! Craig worked with a girl who was very pretty and popular. Men from across the country would talk about her. If someone came from out of town, they made a point to pop in and say hi; yet somehow she was always alone. She would date, but ultimately it would end in disappointment. Her problem? The guys she would date fit her lifestyle, (athletic, urban, successful, etc.), but they just didn't care for her as much as she cared for them! She thought she was the problem!! Fact is she was right, just not in the way she thought. It wasn't that there was something wrong with her, there was something wrong with her attitude. She explained to Craig about this guy she was dating. She thought things were going well, but then came March and "March Madness". This guy told her that he wouldn't be seeing much of her for the next month as he was a college basketball nut. She thought that was normal. Craig thought they were both nuts. Early on in a relationship, and you choose basketball over a desirable woman?!?! I could be wrong, but I think the NCAA Final Four tournament happens every March. Miss one, and there is another 11 months away. The person you want to spend your life with, or the person you are supposed to spend your life with may only come your way once.

Craig is often accused of being too effeminate. Choosing to spend Saturday night at home watching a "Rom.Com." and drinking wine with his wife, instead of poker with the boys. Does that make him gay? Quite the contrary. Craig and Kris have a wonderful relationship because of the choices they make. Craig knows guys who get together to play poker who sit around and play rock band until everyone shows; or even more strange, they sit around and watch porn before they play cards!! What's "more gay" (whatever that means!) sharing a romantic evening with your wife, or watching porn with a room full of other guys!?!?!?!?

I used to watch a former neighbour leave his gorgeous wife at home every weekend and go out ATVing with his buddies. Maybe their romance was Monday through Thursday; who knows, but from an outsiders point of you it sure looked like he took the two days he has from work and chose to spend it with other men. Again I have to ask, what is more gay? A guy who stays at home and loves his wife, or a guy who goes out to the forest to hang with his buddies?

I'm not suggesting that all men give up their ATV's, poker and golf, but the reality is you have to make a choice. What's more important. If it's golf, then why stick around. To the ladies the same question. If your man would rather play poker with the boys than play "poke her" with you; why the heck are you putting up with it?

Don't we all just deserve to be happy?

A great underrated movie this year was "He's Just Not That Into You" based on the famous book of the same name. It's has a great message. It should be shown to every 13 year old girl around the world. The answers are that simple.

Welterusten!!