Twenty years, two teenagers, and a blog . . . . .

One day in and a blog might end the twenty years of wedded bliss!! What to write, what direction to take, and creative differences have led to a good old fashioned case of "writers block" . . .

Ultimately we wanted this to be about "self-esteem", but tonight I thought I would rant tonight about society's need to run people into the ground. Growing up we both admired the Kennedy's - specifically John F. Kennedy. In today's society poor John wouldn't have stood a chance. From John Edwards to Gary Hart. From Eliot Spitzer to John Ensign (okay his hypocrisy made that funny!!) We live in a world that has become obsessed with stripping people of their dignity. Oprah is fat again. Calista Flockhart isn't fat enough!! Why do people get so much enjoyment out of putting others down, or exposing their flaws?

I saw a documentary on JFK and his mistresses a while back on the History Channel. While he was a senator they had a photograph of him entering his girlfriends home!! It was quickly hushed up because they had him pegged for the presidency. Now we're not advocating adultery, but we find it amazing how we automatically look for flaws in people nowadays. None of us are perfect. Is it necessary to expose the flaws of every person in the public eye?

Maybe that's how our journey begins. After twenty years we've both done things we aren't proud of, and lord knows we have plenty of faults; but isn't that a wonderful part of growing old together? Mistakes are made, but you learn from them and move on. A person's faults become a glorious piece of what makes them special. A reason why you love them.

Instead of crucifying people for their flaws, why not celebrate them? Or at least let them move on and learn in peace. We can start changing things by simply doing something small like turning off TMZ (sorry Kalista), or telling your local politicians (no matter what the party) that attack adds won't be tolerated. Look at your spouse tonight and smile at something that usually annoys you. Share a laugh instead of judging. It will enrich any relationship.

Welterusten!